The best encapsulation of positive psychology I've read is from Martin Seligman's book Flourish. He explains that when he first started writing about positive psychology he called it happiness. Almost twenty years later, however, he realizes that happiness isn't the right idea for what positive psychology advocates. Well being is.
This is also true of Zen. Zen isn't about enlightenment unless enlightenment is about well being. Zen isn't about mindfulness, meditation, and meaningfulness unless mindfulness, meditation, and meaningfulness are about well being. The contentment, acceptance, and peace we seek in Zen are all names for the well being we seek.
So what is well being?
Positive Emotions
Engagement
Relationships
Meaningfulness
Accomplishment
Below is a brief explanation
and expansion of each area.
Positive Emotions
The four most important
emotions to develop according to numerous scientific studies in the field of positive
psychology and neuroscience are optimism, perseverance, gratitude, and
forgiveness.
Engagement
Participate, get involved, do
it, experience things, create memories, life is for the living.
Relationships
Love and be loved, get social,
foster family and friendship, have a support system, have someone you can call
your soul friend, and like yourself as much as you like others.
Meaningfulness
Care about something or
someone, make a difference, practice kindness and compassion, and develop “spirituality” whatever that means to
you in religious or secular terms.
Accomplishment
Set goals, work toward the
goals, and achieve and celebrate goals, remembering that the process is more
important the the product. Well being is
the journey, not the destination. That's not just a cute cliché with a picture
of a kitten walking down a path. It's
scientific proof: people are happier or “more in a state of well being” for
longer and deeper when they are aware of working toward the goal rather than
when they actually achieve the goal.
An easy way to remember the
five areas of well being is through the acronym PERMA. I have this as a reminder on a piece of paper
in my wallet and on a giant piece of butcher block paper in my classroom. I
reflect upon the five areas often and ask myself how I can increase each of
them to enhance the well being in my life.
I invite you to do the same.
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