Wednesday, June 26, 2013

Five Truths about Fear

Five Truths about Fear 

Truth #1: The fear will never go way as long as you continue to grow. 

*If we are learning and wanting to do new things, as we should be as people who live in this world of amazing opportunities, then we will always encounter something new and wonder can I do it?  We will always encounter some doubt and fear. 

[My note: *To say to yourself “if the fear will never go away as long as I continue to grow then I don't want to grow” is denying yourself your potential and the amazing opportunities offer us, and like it or not, as recalcitrant and stubborn and unwilling as you can be to grow, you will grow]

Truth #2:  The only way to get rid of the fear of doing something is to go out and do it.

*Fear dissolves when you confront it

*The “doing it” comes BEFORE the fear goes away

*In other ways, the fear doesn't go away until you do it.  So, for the most part, you're going to feel some degree of fear before you do it and while you are doing it, whatever that “it” is—starting a new career, living in a different city, traveling to a city or country, asking someone on a date, dating someone, going back to school, changing a significant habit in your life, changing yourself

*Don't play the When-Then Game with fear

          ...When I feel better about myself then I will do it

          ...When I'm confident, then I'll do it

          ...When I'm fearless, then I'll do it

Truth #3:  the only way to feel better about yourself is go go out and do it.

*The doing be comes before the feeling better about yourself

*It is fairly predictable, however, that when  you've finally mastered something and gotten rid of the fear, it will fee so good that you will decide that there is something else out there you want to accomplish, and guess what?  The fear begins again as you prepare to meet a new challenge and opportunity.

Truth #4: Not only are you going to experience fear whenever you are in unfamiliar territory, but so is everyone else

*Don't interpret fear as a signal to stop buy rather as a green light to go ahead

*Move toward your desired goals with the fear rather than away from them because of the fear

*The fear is there; don't let it stop you

Truth #5: Pushing through fear is less frightening than living with the underlying fear that comes from a feeling of helplessness

*You can't escape from fear.  You can only transform it into a companion that accompanies you on your exciting and new and out of comfort  and certainty security zone

 These five truths about fear are notes I took from the book Feel the Fear and Do it Anyway by Susan Jeffers. 

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